The love of your life has died suddenly. Can you imagine feeling joy ever again?
Sheryl Sandberg went through this experience. She’s written a book about it, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy. She believes resilience is like a muscle and can be built up, that life is never perfect, and doesn’t always go according to plan. “We all live some form of Option B.”
An FBI Agent (and former “fancy department store buyer”), shares her thoughts on resilience – discovered from her earliest experiences at the FBI Academy:
- Accept that it’s not all about you. “You don’t need more mantras or affirmations; you need a better way to look at your world.”
- Refuse to play the blame game. “Life is hard. Pain is inevitable. Growth is optional.”
- Bring it on. Getting knocked down is part of life…getting back up is, too.
- Stop trying to be happy. Happiness is an emotion that draws its power from others. Joy is an attitude that depends only on you.
The gym is crowded in January. This muscle can be exercised anywhere.